Combat Negative Self-Talk

 We all come from the same slate. Don’t fall into the trapped belief that you are inferior. You are a very special, one of a kind. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

-Miss Kho

I’m too stupid. I’m ugly. I’m weak. Everyone is better than me. I’m inadequate. I’m a failure. I never do anything right. I never succeed. Repeating these statements on a constant basis is obviously doing more harm than good. If you fall victim of negative self-talk, how does it make you feel? Doesn’t it add strain to your body physiologically? It’s obviously not the best feeling in the world. Referring to my previous post, repetition of negative thoughts will enter our subconscious naturally and when we believe in them, we then eventually become what we believe. It’s a dangerous downward slope to follow. Please don’t get caught into this.

You need to form positive affirmations about yourself. Instead of saying, I’m ugly say I’m beautiful. If you don’t believe you’re beautiful, tell me precisely how one defines beauty. If you are defining beauty in reference to XYZ, then stop comparing. If it helps, try meditating. Begin connecting with people to whom you associate with positive influence. Our social circle has a powerful effect to us whether we are aware of it or not.

I once hung around a group of deviant people who would respond to life’s pitfalls with drugs, alcohol and various bizarre activities in between. Just within 2 years ago, I wiped out all of them because I knew they were having debilitating effects on me. I took a big risk, which led me to intense isolation from everyone. I was severely depressed and lonely, but I knew that by allowing myself some time for mental cleansing and self-growth, it would be for the best in the long run. It’s like demolishing an old building and rebuilding it so it’ll be held upon a better foundation. That’s what it felt for me – the pain or the demolishment is what was necessary for having the new foundation for a sustaining better life.